Exes and general weirdness
Apr. 8th, 2019 08:37 pmQuick visa update, which is necessary to explain the context of the rest of this entry:
I have given up on the Migrant Visa, the one I'd been working towards up til now. It was just... ugh. Such a hassle. So many criteria to fulfil and work towards. Such a long and uncertain timeframe from now - once I had gathered everything to fulfil the insane criteria I'd first submit an Expression of Interest, and then wait around for months to be invited to apply for one of the limited number of Migrant Visa applications released per month. Then I'd have to wait for ages more for it to be approved, and it could still be denied.
So with Mark's full support I decided to switch to the Partner Visa, despite the reservations of my family and myself - because I do love and trust Mark wholly and we're going to get engaged, but then everyone loves and trusts their SOs and believes there'll never be an end and yet breakups and divorces still happen. :/ If for whatever reason our love soured and we broke up, given that my ability to stay in the country to work and live my life in our house with our cats depends on him, I would lose everything. So this was a really hard decision to make.
I'm in the process of applying for that visa now, and one of the preliminaries is filling out a LOT of information about my life and his, including the birth and citizenship details of our families (including siblings' spouses). It also wants information about previous de facto relationships, which means Mark's abusive ex, Hilary. It wants start and end dates of those relationships.
( Mark and Hilary were together for eight and a half years before she left him and the country in mid-October 2014... )
We're moving forward and I'm on the way to staying permanently in Australia, finally! \o/
I have given up on the Migrant Visa, the one I'd been working towards up til now. It was just... ugh. Such a hassle. So many criteria to fulfil and work towards. Such a long and uncertain timeframe from now - once I had gathered everything to fulfil the insane criteria I'd first submit an Expression of Interest, and then wait around for months to be invited to apply for one of the limited number of Migrant Visa applications released per month. Then I'd have to wait for ages more for it to be approved, and it could still be denied.
So with Mark's full support I decided to switch to the Partner Visa, despite the reservations of my family and myself - because I do love and trust Mark wholly and we're going to get engaged, but then everyone loves and trusts their SOs and believes there'll never be an end and yet breakups and divorces still happen. :/ If for whatever reason our love soured and we broke up, given that my ability to stay in the country to work and live my life in our house with our cats depends on him, I would lose everything. So this was a really hard decision to make.
I'm in the process of applying for that visa now, and one of the preliminaries is filling out a LOT of information about my life and his, including the birth and citizenship details of our families (including siblings' spouses). It also wants information about previous de facto relationships, which means Mark's abusive ex, Hilary. It wants start and end dates of those relationships.
( Mark and Hilary were together for eight and a half years before she left him and the country in mid-October 2014... )
We're moving forward and I'm on the way to staying permanently in Australia, finally! \o/